Ive been thinking alot lately on perception. In fact ive been really caught up on it to the point of losing sleep. Heres the scenario; Ill use one from my own life.
Im at fusion. Were playing this game where someone says favorite something and everyone has to find that little group where they fit in. Favorite fruit was called, I was running around frantically calling 'apple' amongst the grapes, cantaloup, and yes, even pears. But alas I found the other apple people. Next one; Favorite crayon colour. Mine has always been white. I always felt bad for it being the only un-usable crayon so I would happily use it as a child whenever possible much to the dismay of everyone around me...
There I am walking around, wading through Dark blues and Burnt Siennas and finaly a lonely person catches my eye. White? White!! We proceed to stand next to eachother and smile. We exchange names non-chalantly. I forget the name, and the game moves on...
What just happened?
What little in-take my brain recieves tells me about her is her appearance, and the fact that she likes the white crayon the best. I know for a fact that there is so much more to her. A whole 19 years at least of stories and things going on but all I found out is white crayon. I just..
Well. Isnt it funny how our minds work?
So I classify her in my mind with a little 'nickname' of sorts. White Crayon Girl; and life moves on...
It makes me think of things like, what if me and someone I like had met under different circumstances? Now, she doesnt seem to reciprocate the feelings back, but. What if? What if we met up at a chance bump in at a coffee shop? She drops something, I pick it up, our eyes meet, etc etc. The entire outcome would have been completely different! Maybe we could have been together? Who knows.
Are first impressions(hence refered to as FI) really that important? You have no idea how much I would like to answer 'No' to that question, but I cant help but feel a certain weight to them. I would like to say, 'The important part that really counts is getting to know someone and seeing what they are all about, not FIs'. Maybe thats it. I try to be that way and to the best of my ability, thats how I am. I dont really place alot of stock in FI because I understand how it is to be socially awkward at completely random times. How many people who Ive met didnt see anything in the FI and stayed out of my life?
It makes me recall the story of meeting Dan. We meet through our parents. His family visiting our church, and my Dad always forced me to be friends with all the new kids. I dont remember it too well, but im pretty sure we just said hi and walked away. We had so much in common even then, but we didnt know it. Circumstances were against us.
How about it reader? What is your take on the 'First Impression'?
Well then, I think I can get some sleep now after writting it down at 2:30 am. peaceout
-Me
Dude i remember that day. Your dad first introduced me to Tj and he was like cool. Then the drummer kid who played during service we said hi and maybe some polite chit chat. then nothing for six months till you came to Temple. Even then I was friends with Tj first cause he was in my Bible class. Now we are best friends...I swear things work out in the weirdest of ways.
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